TRIGGER WARNING: This may trigger some of you who are suffering from post-traumatic lack-of-sense-of-humour syndrome into reacting by leaving serious, holier-than-thou comments about how I am a hypocrite for drawing attention to people’s behaviour online when, gasp, I AM NOT PERFECT! I am sorry for your distress -you DONT HAVE TO READ THIS POST- and I hope you feel better soon.
101 Wankers is a blog by a woman cyclist in London, about men, or ‘wankers’ as she prefers to call them, who harass her on the streets when she is going about her business in the capital.
Obviously, cycling in big cities can be a real nightmare, mainly I thought because one risks one’s life against cars and lorries and vans and buses and… a nightmare. But the focus of 101 wankers is not so much traffic, lack of cycle awareness and dangerous driving, but rather that ubiquitous phenomenon we hear so much about (from feminists) – ‘street harassment’. I won’t go into the content of the blog here-you can read it for yourself if you must. I mention 101 Wankers because Dawn was one of the first feminists to ‘ban’ me from commenting on her blog (well it turns out it wasn’t an outright ban rather she doesn’t publish some of my comments, especially if they criticise her) and who ‘blocked’ me on twitter. For challenging what I perceived to be quite a misandrist, anti-men concept. Do only men harass women on the street? Do men automatically get labelled as ‘wankers’ for passing comment on a woman? Do ‘wankers’ deserve a blog to be named after them?
Anyway I thought I’d set up my own ’101 wankers’ and see what it looks like the other way round. I am collecting the names of people who ban me from their blogs and block me from twitter. I won’t start a whole blog in their honour, or refer to the individuals as ‘wankers’ outside the context of this little list. I don’t ACTUALLY think they are all wankers as individual people. But I think they have quite a wankerish way of dealing with dissent online. Also it is interesting what kind of categories these ‘wankers’ fall into. In terms of the kind of dissent they are attempting to block or erase.
1) High Status Feminists
These are feminists who are quite high profile in the UK and who are ‘gatekeepers’ for feminism’s castle of dogma. They run websites/blogs, write books, organise conferences, go round Tescos in their pyjamas doing the conga in order to stop objectification of women. That kind of thing.
On twitter I have been blocked by such high status feminists as:
Kat Banyard (@katbanyard) – author of The Equality Illusion. Anti-porn feminist.
Cath Redfern (@cathredfern)- co-author of ‘Reclaiming The F-word’, founder of F word UK feminist website/blog.
Julie Bindel (@bindelj) – Butch Dyke, journalist, Basher Bindel is an old-school radfem of great renown.
Bidisha (@Bidisha_online) -Bidisha, writer, journalist, wan malingerer, the queen of victim feminism. Head of ‘The Girls’ Team’
Sian Morris (@sianushka) Sian is a blogger and Bristol feminist activist who seems like an ok person, but she blocks me on twitter for challenging her views regularly.
Suzanne Moore- To be honest I have been quite hard on Suzanne. I have written some quite daming articles about her ‘Feminism 2.0′ columns in The Guardian, on my Graunwatch blog. But she has responded by suggesting I may not be ‘a woman’ after all. And by blocking me on twitter and beseeching me never to speak to ‘or about’ her ever again!
Sady Doyle is an American high-profile feminist journalist and blogger/activist. She is good at writing in CAPS to emphasise HER POINT and is particularly obsessed with rape. She blocked me on twitter when I called her a ‘bitch’, and said that is what ‘most’ women in the ‘social justice sphere’ have done. I didn’t know I was that notorious!
Caitlin Moran blocked me on twitter when I criticised the premise of her recently published book: How to be a woman.
Sali Hughes blocked me on twitter for challenging Suzanne Moore and others about the apparent epidemic of internet ‘misogyny’ we are faced with.
Linda Grant – the novelist blocked me on twitter, I think maybe because she is pals with Suzanne Moore and witnessed an exchange of words between us.
Eva Wiseman - the Observer lesbian columnist blocked me after searching her name on twitter, and finding me critiquing her writing.
UK_Feminista – the national feminist organisation block me on twitter because I dared to argue with them about their politics.
On blogs I am banned from commenting on the blogs of
Dawn Foster- 101 Wankers – as above
Kate Smurthwaite- Blogs under the name of Cruella Blog . Kate is a ‘comedian’ and dial-a-feminist for Radio 4 and the liberal press. She famously wrote a nasty post about how she turned up at Sebastian Horsley’s funeral with a sign saying ‘what about the VICTIMS of prostitution?’ The silly cow.
Melissa McEwan- Melissa is American and runs Shakesville, a blog for frumpy fucked off feminists and queers. She has written ‘Feminism 101′ and ‘Rape Culture 101′ two of the nastiest texts about gender I know. She sometimes writes for the Guardian.
Cath Elliott- Cath is on the shortlist for the Orwell blogging prize this year. I got banned during a discussion about online bullying, for daring to suggest that feminists bully people too. There was a bit of a conflict over the context in which I’d told Cath’s pal, Julie ‘Basher’ Bindel, to ‘suck my dick’. Cath also sometimes writes for The Guardian cif.
Feministe- I am not sure if I am banned or on a ‘time out’ from Feministe, the American based feminist blog. It was a post by my old pal Clarisse Thorn (see below) where I mentioned that if I said what I really felt about her ideas on ‘rape culture’ I’d probably get banned/blocked/insulted. And I did.
Amanda Marcotte - another young American feminasty, who obviously doesn’t like my take on her precious dogma. She blocks me on twitter.
Comment Is Free ( @commentisfree) On twitter the Guardian’s online section blocked me after I mentioned the ‘shit feminism’ of the Graun. Stay classy.
Bella Mackie (@bellamackie) blocks me on twitter. She is an editor at cif and runs the @commentisfree twitter with two others. So it was her!
Susie Bright (@susiebright) It is not often I have been surprised to be blocked by someone online. But Susie Bright surprised me. She left a positive comment on my (critical) review of her book Best Sex Writing 2012 and we had an interesting interaction. But now she blocks me on twitter. Thanks sister!
Other Feminist women
There seems to be a load of feminists who all know each other who all find QRG’s special blend of gender politics/sexuality/dissent unpalatable. Again I won’t name them as they don’t represent a particular publication/group. They do wield some influence though and quite a few of them are bloggers. They are contributing to my list of 101 wankers anyway!
A few are becoming more prominent, or annoyed me a lot, so deserve a mention:
Stavvers Zoe Stavaris writes a blog called ‘another angry woman’. Not another one? She uses a mix of feminism 2.0 and evolutionary biology and psychology to show how men are bad and women are the best. I am blocked from her blog sometimes, especially when I criticise her work. I accused her of shutting down debate on her own blog, and she said shutting down debate is often allowing debate to happen. How?
Alison Afra Alison got to know the work of Mark Simpson via me. She wrote a blogpost about his recent Guardian article, then refused to publish my comments underneath it. She also blocks me on twitter.
Mistertumnus (@mistertumnus) she is an irish, Catholic, feminist, gayist, annoying, sanctimonious laydee. She found me too ‘agressive’.
Linda Marric (linda_marric) feminist, socialist, Johann Hari fan. Likes Mark Simpson even though she is against everything he stands for and vice versa
Rachel Roberts (@scouserachel) no idea except I think it has something to do with Sali Hughes why she blocks me.
Sharon Gooner (@sharonGOOner) blocks me because I challenged her for wishing someone dead on twitter.
Sarah Ditum – the original Mumsy Cupcake Feminist. Called me ‘menacing’. Grr.
@Langtry_girl – blocked me on sarah ditum’s suggestion. how loyal.
Dorian Lynskey blocked me for publishing a tweet of his which said people who use the term ‘misandry’ are just ‘self-pitying cocks’.
No, Seriously, What About The Menz? a blog supposedly concerned with men’s issues, banned me for criticising Sady Doyle, that well known men’s rights activist I mean nasty feminist.
The Gayists don’t like me. And I don’t like them. These are middle class, white, ‘privileged’ gay men who like to go on and on and on about how oppressed they are, and how any challenge to their dogma is ‘homophobia’. The key gayists that block me on twitter are:
Patrick Strudwick- Strudders is a journalist. He posed as a gay who wishes he were straight to dupe a Christian therapist into trying to ‘cure’ him. He flirts with women a lot, like Caitlin Moran and goes on about his amazing feminist Mum.
Johann Hari-St Johann the Librarian is a lay gay preacher I mean journalist. He thinks Christianity is the work of the devil, and everyone must atone for their sins by idolising Stephen Fry and becoming more pious than er… Patrick Strudwick. Johann also has a blog where he doesn’t allow anyone to leave comments. So it is more of a pulpit.
Fuck Theory - Mr Fuck Theory isn’t on twitter. He runs a blog about sexuality and philosophy. He is very gayist without actually going on about the politics all the time. It just seeps out of his every pore. I imagine his appartment is spotless. I imagine his life is perfect. I imagine that deep down, he hates who he is, so he hides it by hating everyone else instead.
Paul Burston – Paul Burston is an author and a high profile London Gay. He writes a Gay and Lesbian column in Time Out (which he has blocked me from commenting on, as well as on twitter) and the Gay Literary Salon, Polari. He doesn’t like how I question his use of the term ‘gay’ to cover all queer people. He is SUPERGAY.
Str8Bro – Str8bro is a gay who thinks he is a bro. He blocks my comments on his blog but I think he loves me really, don’t you bro?
Eric Anderson – accused me of being Mark Simpson’s sock puppet. Thinks he is the queen of masculinity studies.
Mark McCormack – is Eric (Gayric) Anderson’s chief honcho.
Stuart Sandford - is an artist and bodybuilder. He is doing a project where he is bodybuilding for a year or something. It is well gay.
Nero – (@Nero) an ex Telegraph columnist, uber gay, doesn’t like Hari. Or me.
Owen Jones – (@owenjones84) author of Chavs, critiquing dehumanising portrayals of working class people, calls people ‘brain dead trolls’. I pointed out the irony. He blocked me.
Alex (@Sturdyalex) – a good political blogger. But we came to blows over gay marriage, and he said my tweets were a ‘pollutant’ in his timeline and I am in serious need of help. Not from him I hope!
Max Morris – friends with Eric Anderson and Mark Mccormack
Grant Peterson – husband of Eric Anderson
Matt Ripley – not actually gay, but friends with McCormack and Anderson.
Martin Sterling (@streetworker01) Writes for Corrie. Blocked me under instructions from Paul Burston. What power he yields!
Quentin Nield @quentinnield – another one who blocked me under instructions from Paul Burston.
Ian Rivers (Ian_Rivers) – colleague of Mccormack and Anderson. Need I say more? Blocks me on twitter.
Stella Duffy is lesbian but I think it is gayism (and Paul Burston) that caused her to block me on twitter.
Yozzer Hughes @yozzerhughes66 - I have never interacted with him except once after he commented about me on twitter. Then I noticed he blocks me. Gay.
Egg Of Truth ( @eggoftruth ) thinks I should be illegal as I am such a vile homophobe!
The Cowlicker (@thecowlicker ) nice body, shame about the gayism.
Ben Summerskill (@bensummerskill ) head of Stonewall the gay rights campaign organisation. Gay.
3) Sex People
I write about sex/sexuality. So do plenty of others. But it seems I get up some of their noses. Because I do sex wrong, it seems. The people who think I do sex wrong and so block me on twitter are:
Brooke Magnanti (aka @BelledeJour_uk) – Brooke/Belle is one of the most successful sex bloggers of our time, and has had her blog turned into very popular books. She now blogs about sex/sex work and ‘feminism’ for a forthcoming book called ‘Sexonomics’. She is a bit like the queen bee of the sex writing world. I have felt the sting in her tail. Brooke also has a blog for her ‘sexonomics’ writing where she does not allow comments. It’s a lecture not a conversation.
Zoe Margolis (@girlonetrack) – Zoe is not quite but on the way to being as successful as Belle, as a sex blogger who has had her work published as two books, and is apparently having a film made based on the blogs/books too. She is another queen bee and there’s not enough room in the blogging world of sexy sex show-offs for two of those it seems. She doesn’t blog at the moment.
Filament Magazine (@filamentmag) – is a UK-based magazine, with international distribution, for women who like to look at men. But only certain women, and only in a certain way. The ‘female gaze’ is rather stern and it doesn’t like to be criticised. I’m also blocked from commenting on their live journal blogs.
Clarisse Thorn (@clarissethorn) Clarisse Thorn is an S and M ‘sex positive’ feminist. But she wasn’t very positive when I challenged some of her representations of masculinity on her blog and on a feminist website. She told me to ‘tone down’ my ‘anti-feminism’ or leave so I left. (She hasn’t blocked me on twitter yet, though, yet).
Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker is a kinky sex person from Sanfrancisco, sex city. She put me ‘on mod’ on her blog, which is like being on the naughty step, and my actually block me altogether now. She got her kinky knickers in a twist when I challenged her project aiming to bring more men into the field of the ‘female gaze’. Which I don’t think exists. She is friends with Filament mag and others.
Freedom In A Puritan Age Journal – the prosex, anti-censorship journal refuse to publish my comments on their blog, and the editor called me a ‘troll’ and says she does not want to have anything to do with me. After Id written a review for her website, unpaid. Nice!
Anna Arrowsmith – for a pornographer she is frightfully delicate and stuck up.
Dr Petra – we used to get on ok but she can’t take criticism – e.g. she does not allow comments on her blog. and it was ‘with regret’ she had to block me.
Belinda Brooks-Gordon @BelindaBG – psychologist and sex researcher, pals with dr Petra. Didn’t like it when I suggested her ‘big gay study’ was too…gay.
4) The New Statesman
I swear to you I have never ever had a problem with the New Statesman. I mean like most people I stopped reading it ages ago. But when it came online I kept abreast of the blogs by some of its journalists I knew from elsewhere. One by one I got into what turned out to be quite heated debates with a few of them, that ended up in a car crash of a dispute that shall now be ever known as ‘dozy shitgate’. The key NS journos who have decided I represent a threat to whatever it is they are trying to do are:
Laurie Penny (@Pennyred) Ah, Laurie. I actually have a bit of a soft spot for laurie. She is a kind of parody of a parody of Rik Mayall’s paradoy of a student lefty activist in the Young Ones. She writes incredibly turgid but sometimes hilarious prose, and always mentions ‘sadism’ and ‘submission’ and other dramatic words.
Steven Baxter (@stevenbaxter) I don’t have anything to say about Baxter. He runs the Enemies of Reason blog. It’s aptly named.
David Allen Green (@davidallengreeen) Likewise DAG. He’s a lawyer. And an ex-Tory now Liberal Democrat.
Transgender politics are bound to be fraught in some ways. I didn’t realise just how fraught till I started discussing them online. MOst trans people I have conversed with have been very open and interesting to talk to. One or two have not. And those one or two seem to wield quite a lot of power in the community.
Metal Mujer (@metalmujer aka nueva voz) MM has a respect I just do not understand, not just from trans women, who she claims to represent, but also from other activists. They allow her to ‘call them out’ when they are ‘transmisogynist’. I didn’t and I got told I was a ‘cis princess’ and I had to be removed from her sight.
Roz Kaveney a trans woman activist/feminist, blocked me on twitter because she likes Suzanne Moore I think, and got annoyed with my critiques of her friend.
Big Daddy Keltik – trans man, feminist, Scot, annoying.
Aunty sarah @auntysarah a trans woman I don’t know why she blocked me on twitter.
Giagia – Brian Cox’s wife, blocks me on twitter, probably because I disagreed with here about something. That’s the skeptic movement for you always opened to opposing points of view.
Tracy King @tkingdoll blocked me after a very brief ‘discussion’ on twitter about something – to do with feminism. May have been the skepchick in a lift thing I can’t remember.
7) Funny People
I thought funny people were quite open minded and hard to offend it seems not. So far, on twitter I have been blocked by
Grace Dent the guardian critic and general funny woman, for standing up against her bullying of some people who challenged a ‘joke’ she made about gypsies.
Simon Blackwell, comedy writer including of The Thick of it. For… I have no idea.
Ava Vidal – comedian. Apparently.
8 ) Catholics
AlphabetofBeing – A Catholic blogger and tweeter who blocked me. I have no idea why! What do I do to offend Catholics? ….
9) The Ritas
Possibly the most surreal sub-category of people who block me online, The Ritas are a two-woman band, one of whom (@Helen_Highwater_) is a longtime Moz fansite /slashfic writer. I suppose it could be my anti-feminism that pissed them off – who knows? anyway they are on the list (@Oliveoyl is the other one)
Update – I found out the Ritas – or Helenhighwater at least, block me because I said the slutwalks were ‘manshaming’. As I thought – feminists can’t handle critique.
And now, Helen’s boyfriend- @eighths on twitter, has blocked me after I responded to his comment here (as ‘asif’) and on twitter that I should ‘please die’ of ‘cancer of the spine’. What lovely people!
10) The Mark Simpson effect
I am not counting Mark amongst these wankers. Partly as our fallout was personal. Partly because I am very fond of him. But the effect of our fall out has been for me to be incredibly angry and upset. So sometimes I talk to people who talk to him on twitter, and some of them block me as a result. e.g:
@CampbellX who is also a lesbian and a feminist.
@Cobaltmale who is also a gay
@Marycigarettes who is also a gay.
Marilyn, the 80s homo/drag icon friend of Boy George @TheMrmarilyn on twitter who I told Mark was on twitter has blocked me due to conversations with him and Mark on the social media site. Ruin my teen heroes why don’t you? when Marilyn found out he was on 101 wankers he said, ‘I hope I am at number one’! always a popstar and one of my stars!
@RobManuel – not gay or lesbian or feminist particularly. Just gay in the lame way?
@Stephenplynch – White, Gay, etc etc…
@LukestephensMUA – see above
@Jonesyinc1 – I think he may be… GAY.
@@LucyVmorgan a writer of ‘erotica’ lah dee dah.
@Frozenwarning – no idea why
@rhysmorgan – because I argued with him and Tracy King (@tkingdoll)
@Msnickyclark – disability activist, liberal darling
@mattleys – I think I pissed him off when I argued with his liberal pals after being outed. He blocks me on twitter now.
Alex Marwood – @alexmarwood1 friend of Paul Burston. ’nuff said.
Zoot Cadillac (@zootcadillac ) – dunno. Blocks me on twitter.
Citizenx103 @citizenx103 - is the boyfriend of someone I know via twitter, a lovely woman. But he got bored of QRG and wanted me to have a day off! I refused.
Mat of Kilburnia @matofkilburnia blocks me on twitter. I have no idea why!
That’s it for now. I wonder if I will get to 101 wankers before Dawn does!