This is a map of all the different types of non-monogamy by Franklin Veaux: http://tacit.livejournal.com/333842.html which I first saw on Laura Augustin’s brilliant site : http://www.lauraagustin.com (click on image to enlarge)
My question is, where is monogamy? in all this. Is it a separate planet, where all the monogamous people live? Or is it tacked onto the left handside, overlapping slightly with the ‘cheating’ and the ‘commerce’ sections of the map? (If you want to make a sex worker laugh, just tell her/him you believe in monogamy). But what about serial monogamy? All those short, aborted ‘relationships’ that aren’t quite casual sex but aren’t exactly marriages or even love (or the example of Tony Curtis (RIP), who was married six times)? What about that time you and your mate Steve wanked each other off in the basement watching Casino Royale? What about all that pornography, all those furtive glances on buses and trains and in nightclubs? What about the night you went for a drink with a co-worker, and when you kissed goodbye you smacked lips instead of cheeks? What about when you accidently brush against someone on the tube and you feel a stirring in your pants? What about your dreams ? (for the Christians among you: ‘anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart’ Matthew 5:27-28)
My question, inspired by my experience, my research and this rather beautifully crazy crazy-paving map, is….
DOES MONOGAMY EXIST?
Next week: Where’s Heterosexuality?