I have wished I were a boy, at various times in my life, secretly, furtively. The thrill I got from watching Orlando, when I was in my early twenties, was visceral. I felt myself transform with her/him. I stared at that new body in delight and fear. I left the cinema feeling different from when [...]
Archive for July, 2010
Bidisha sees hatred wherever she goes. I would not want to walk in her shoes. Her latest article in Guardian CIF describes a world full of casual sexism, fuelled by men’s hatred of women. The anecdotes she recounts, of misogynist language, sexual harassment and gender imbalance at work and in the home, I am sure [...]
The inspirational @footstepszine has written a sequel to her post on feminism, sex work and pleasure . It places her position in the context of her own experience, which I think is a brave and in her case, also a very insightful thing to do. I am linking to it here, and also to my own, [...]
I believe in the radical possibilities of pleasure
Posted: July 27, 2010 in Desire, Feminism, Freedom of Speech, UncategorizedI would like to introduce you to @footstepszine (as she is known on twitter). She is an inspiring, creative, zine maker, writer, arts enthusiast and feminist activist. This is a post she has written, after being angered by Kira Cochrane’s recent Guardian article, on the ‘rejuvenation’ of feminism, and the success of organisations such as [...]
I loved his body and so did he. The perfect squareness of his shoulders as I viewed him from the back. The muscles at the tops of his arms that would not yield when I squeezed with all my strength. The smooth and yet contoured surface of his torso: from neck to groin, from clavicle [...]
The notebook is still locked away. I am there with it, locked up, unread, hiding. I started this project for the sake of writing, and bringing to life something I mainly do online. Not that I don’t write in longhand. The bringing to life bit is the interactive, human aspect of sharing my words with [...]
Karma Police (Educating the sex educators about kink).
Posted: July 22, 2010 in Blogging, Desire, KinkWe all have sexual fantasies right? I remember fantasising before I even started masturbating. I might have been nine or ten. Or eleven. It doesn’t really matter does it? Our sexuality starts in childhood and carries on from there. Recently I spotted a link to this piece by sex educator and therapist, Dr Castellanos, on [...]
I found myself on my soap box again today. It is odd, ‘after feminism’ (af), as I am not sure exactly which issues are going to get my blood racing and my political heart beating again. Turns out it will probably be the same ones that always did. Somebody sent me this link, supporting gay [...]
I used to have a thing for Fuck Theory Fuck Theory is a very niftly little blog, that comments on philosophy, academic theories of gender and sexuality, and popular culture, with the use of photos of aphorisms written on index cards. It’s the kind of thing you’d either love or be completely indifferent to. I loved [...]
Now all I can do is wait. The notebook is in his desk drawer, which may or may not be locked. He is ‘on vacation’. Where do Canadians go on vacation anyway? When I went to Canada during my childhood, we drove up to our friends’ cottage by the lake. I remember the crisp air, [...]
