We need to talk about bumming

This was originally written for the official ‘fauxmos’ blog: We Haven’t Kissed Enough Pretty Girls http://fauxmos.wordpress.com/ ‘Fauxmos’ simply refers to anyone who rejects fixed sexual and gender identities. But also it relates to the group blog we set up in that name. ———————- It is fast becoming a ‘Fauxmos’ catchphrase. I have to admit it [...]

A Confession #2

I have just realised: the sex blog is a confessional. It is just that the confessor and the priest keep switching roles. I love that image, two people in isolation, speaking so intimately, like lovers. Sworn to secrecy. If we could just get rid of the concept of ‘sin’ it might be a very therapeutic [...]

Extreme Pornography

In my real life, I am much better known for being political than for being kinky. My blog leads to many more conversations about  its kink/erotica than its politics. On a friend’s erotica  blog, I was drawn to the only post that was very political. I found that post incredibly sexy. People try their hardest [...]

It All Starts Here

Dawn bathed the mountains in a cool blue light. The sun touched snowy peaks with pale yellow fingers. Ice glistened and snow began its slow build-up towards avalanche. At the house, wooden shutters kept us in darkness. I woke anyway, to the sound of the stream rushing and gurgling past, as if it had an [...]

Academic

I have recently been in receipt of some mindblowing academic porn. I am open to all sorts of methods and media for turning me on. But nothing beats a full-on, intellectual analysis of my favourite topic of enquiry: sex. I have come over all Dr. Ross of Scrubs fame, because I want to have sex [...]

Samantha Rocks! In defence of SATC

The second Sex In The City Movie has just been released, and judging by my little corner of the interwebz it seems to be causing something of a furore.  I keep being sent links to article after article, blog after blog, all wailing about how utterly awful it is. If the majority of the (feminist [...]

A Confession

Dear friends, I have a confession to make. I suspect the more perceptive amongst you have noticed already. But I thought I would come clean. I am one of those bloggers who thinks before she thinks before she has a cup of tea, before she writes (often in…gasp!… Longhand) before she types before she drafts [...]

And the award goes to…

Yesterday I found the best comment on my blog so far. In honour of the person who posted it, Kim Boo San, I am going to establish an award. ‘The Quiet Riot Girl post of the year award’. It is a rolling competition, so the winner can be toppled at any time. But this one [...]

Variations on a theme of rape

Thanks to the media circus surrounding Roman Polanski, and the depressing announcement that the government intends to grant anonymity to defendents in rape cases, rape is back in the news again. I find most media discourses on the subject irritating at the least. But I welcome debate and I think overall it is better that [...]

Crush! Some random notes on desire

My first crush left me reeling like a punch in the stomach. I was fifteen, an awkward mix of mature for my age and completely innocent. Warren Chapman was a few years older. He played bass in my mate’s band: ‘Blind Alliance’. Tall, dark, troubled by acne, he was the most beautiful creature I had [...]